When I saw in the news that Britney had officially given sole custody to K-Fed, I felt compelled to write this.
What do you think? I'd say if she had any fans previous to this, there are none left, wouldn't you agree?
Who cares if you can sing about being back, and being a bitch when you don't even care about the children you gave birth to?
Thoughts?
Brit article on Betty ... Your Best Friend. Only Better
Monday, July 21, 2008
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LOVE IT. Very well put! ;)
Her world is a crazy one. I feel for her boys. We all know some women don't automatically make great moms just because they give birth. Hopefully she gets healthy.
As a family member of ours put it so well recently, "When you can make K Fed look like a good father you know you've really screwed up!"
Becky--BWHAHAHAAHAHAHAH! Classic!
I actually disagree with you on this one. Britney Spears is clearly a screwed up person who's dealing with some serious problems. At this point, she's still incapable of taking care of herself. Her father is court-appointed to basically act as a parent- doling out money, going grocery shopping, and basically running her life. If she can't take care of herself, she has absolutely no business taking care of children, even her own.
Given her current situation, she legally didn't have a leg to stand on, and wasn't going to win custody anyway. As for her feelings towards her children, I don't think that you can judge someone based on their giving up custody of their children. Sometimes the best thing you can do for your kids is the thing you want to do least. In her case, that was making sure that she got better so that she could be a positive influence in their lives. From what I've read, she has visitation rights the moment, and the right to expand her access to her children as she continues to improve. I'll bet she and her lawyers are planning on bringing the custody battle back to court again someday when she can make the argument that she can be just as good a parent as K-Fed.
I usually don't give a damn what's going on with Britney Spears, but I don't think she deserves to be compared to a fish eating their young just because she has given up custody for now.
I respectfully disagree. She's majorly screwed up, but I think this might be the most sane and adult thing she's done in many years. I for one have a great deal more respect for her now that she's made this decision.
There is NOTHING anyone in this world could do to induce me to give up my children, but I'm a healthy adult who's capable of caring for myself and my family. She's not! She seems to have some serious problems (mental illness of some sort, don't you think?).
I think it's far more loving and motherly of her not to subject her kids to her erratic and dangerous behavior until she's capable of functioning on her own. Right now she appears unable to keep it together without court-appointed supervision. NOT someone who should be raising children unsupervised.
I'm not really into this celebrity thing but from what I gather (mostly from old copies of OK magazine in the doctors!) she is not mentally able to deal with children and for their own safety I'm guessing the boys will be better of with dad.
That said, I don't know anything about the dad so is it frying and fire time??
Maybe they should just give them to someone who really wants them - after all there are enough couples desperate for kids who can't have them.
Wow. I don't even know what to say, aside from the fact it's obvious in SO many ways she doesn't deserve to be a mother. I hope those boys finally find some stability and love they so deserve.
OOh, hadn't heard tat bit about Britney... not follwoing my gossip mags like I normally do.
Liked your commentary though;))
I sort of think you're being a tad bit harsh. None of us truly know what's going on in her head or her life. We get a media spin. If she's incapable of giving her kids the kind of care they need due to mental or emotional problems, then they're better off not being in her care. Perhaps she just did the best thing she could do for those boys.
I hope she can get it together.
I think that's the best thing she's done for those boys.
I think it's sad that she has to put up with everyone and their brother judging her. I'm not even a fan, but had to state this.Maybe a little compassion would be in order if this was one of YOUR family members. Since she is not, MYOB hags and stop reading tabloid sites all day. Go raise your own kids and keep your minds on your own lives.
Wow, what a discussion! Thanks to all who chimed in.
For tutu, I LOVED what you wrote in defense of Britney. I don't follow the story all that much, but as a mom, I just couldn't understand it. Thank you for bringing her side of the story to light. And thank you for doing it nicely on my blog and not hatefully! I love when readers respond like that, and I really respect and think your comment was very valid!
Semele--thank you also for respectfully disagreeing to my opinion! I am thinking more clearly about Britney. I guess as long as she's not going out clubbing without underwear and getting into all sorts of trouble after giving up her kids, and if she is trying to get her life back on track, then I am all for her plan. I guess I don't see the heartbreak side. Maybe she does sit at home and bawl her eyes out at the thought of not being there for her kids. And maybe she regrets becoming a superstar at the age of 14 or 15 or however old she was?
And maybe it was us, the people who listened to her music, followed her life, watched from the tabloids that put her into this position in the first place? Do you think the papparazzi and the fans, and her fame, and all the tabloids made her nuts?
This is a great discussion, and I am sorry if I said anything to offend anyone, but it's fun to discuss, and I don't think Brit's reading my blog and getting bent out of shape by anything I have to say about what she's doing in her life, right? : )
I think that all of the public speculation about her mental state is just that. Frankly, nobody but those in her circle know if she really has "mental issues" (there has been no official diagnosis of anything released to the public--and it's nobody's business anyway--but it is all, like I said, speculation), if there are drugs and alcohol causing her "issues", or if this is just another case of a spoiled young Hollywood celebrity who got too much too quickly and doesn't know how to handle it all...AND surrounded herself initially with the wrong people who were hangers-on.
I agree that if she is incapable of mothering her children, then she did the absolute correct thing by giving up sole custody (did she give it up really, or was a better offer not extended?) because those poor boys are going to have enough problems as it is. But I do totally agree that she is missing out and I think that no matter what her issues stem from, at some point she did have control and should have used it: even to get HELP for herself. I do hope that she continues on this seemingly better path for herself. Custody arrangements can always be adjusted later!
Ha!: and oddly enough I do agree (to an extent) with anonymous. I read too many tabloids. It is very easy for us to judge others, especially when they are celebrities. It's hard not to though, when celebrities are so attention-hungry in the first place.
But we're not hags. :)
Is K-Fed a great dad? I don't really know that much about him, but are the kids actually with him or do they have a full-time nanny who is with them or someone else who always keeping an eye on them?
I think she did the best thing for her kids- so for that I give her credit. If she gets herself in a better situation she can petition for more visitation. If she can't pull it together - be it mental health issues or not wanting to be a mom- I'm glad she didn't drag her kids through something so she could flaunt them like an accessory. I think some people go after custody because they think they should- or to hurt their ex- not because they really want to co-parent their kids.
amen sister!
Gee.
When I taught at a high risk high school I saw mothers give up their kids all the time- to foster care- to aunties- to grandma...
Few of my students actually had a mother AND father in the same house.
um...it just may be shocking cuz we see it at the celebrity level but trust me guys- it's not that unusual much as we'd like to think so.
Is it right?
Now that's a WHOLE other question...
I guess part of it is we think of Britney having an indisposable amount of money so she should be able to afford to keep her children, but that's not the issue here, is it? In fact, she gives K-Fed $20,000 a MONTH to care for those children.
Did anyone see the recent photos of her son playing with her cigarettes?
Maybe her plan is to get well and then go back to court to ask for her children back. I don't know.
Just an interesting topic.
Just gave my 2 cents!
LOL!
Thanks for the opp to VENT about her - she makes me so ANGRY!
Such a sad situation, really. I think those kids are going to end up half crazy no matter what their parents do.
i agree. but i also think she did the right thing. better to give them up now than neglect and corrupt them their whole lives.
either way, they're screwed. hopefully k-fed is a better father than it looks like he'd be...
I love your article - it's totally manic funny, and that's cool.
But, I disagree because I think that she did the right thing by giving Kevin the kids. Knowing that the other parent is in a better position to nurture and care for the kids is actually very mature, IMO.
And regarding the recent photos of her son playing with her cigarettes... I just have to say that while I didn't see the photos, I feel compelled to come to Brit's defense and say that cameras are on her ALL THE TIME. That has to be some kind of pressure.
If I had cameras on me all the time, folks would see some interesting (and not altogether flattering) stuff. And I consider myself a solid, good mom.
Anyway, interesting discussion!!
MONNIK--thanks, and you are right on about all the cameras.
Here's a question though about K-Fed and his great-dad ability--doesn't he have like at least two other kids by some other woman (Sharon?) and maybe another woman too? Where the heck are THOSE children? Is he not that good of a father to THEM because their mom or moms are not paying 20-thousand a month for him to be an uber dad?
Discuss amongst yourselves! : )
I too will have to disagree. And may this be the first and probably only time I defend Britney.
Obviously she has her problems, as some of the previous commenter's have pointed out. She had a breakdown earlier this year and is not even responsible enough to take care of herself, let alone two children. In fact I think this may be one of the first good motherly things we have seen her do (publically that is, I don't want to make assumptions on her private life, because maybe when she does get them she does well by them).
To give up her children must not be easy, I doubt that she actually lacks the emotion to feel pain towards the situation, but I think this is good because it is not only admitting that she can't care for them at the moment, but she is leaving them in more capable hands (eek, K-Fed).
She does still see them and has progressed from a few months ago when she had no contact at all, she now get's overnight visits, something that seemed almost impossible earlier this year. I also think this is a tactical decision on her lawyers and advisors part. It shows that she is putting the welfare of her children first and is getting help for herself, most likely this will be better for future custody agreements.
As it was also mentioned, she isn't going out and flashing her lady bits around anymore either, she has remained a little more private lately, not running around with different guys and stumbling out of clubs at 4am. Instead she's apparently been working.
Also, I question why we can't give a woman some slack? If this were a man we wouldn't really have much of a problem with it, we'd call him a bastard or a**hole or insult his manhood, but it's rare to see someone call out a man for his lack of parenting skills or decision to not be involved in their childs life (see Eddie Murphy for an example of that, or most recently Balthazar Getty and his affair with Sienna Miller, or Tori Spelling's husband who abandoned his 6 week old daughter he adopted with his ex-wife when he had his affair with Tori)
Well I do think you have a point with your argument about women who abandon their children, I don't think this is a case of abandonment but instead it may finally be a glimmer of hope for all those hoping that the "old Britney" returns.
Jen, about giving the women some slack--you are sooo right! I have seen pictures of Matthew McCaughnahy (spelled wrong, I know!) surfing, jogging, etc, etc, and I'm like, "He has a newborn!!! Doesn't he want to snuggle and cuddle and be with that baby!?!?!"
That one miffs me!
You guys are all enlightening me with your thoughts on Britney. If I had her number, I would call and apologize to her for saying she is a mamma-fish-eating-her-young! : )
The other thing that hasn't been mentioned is that she is getting increased visitation time with her sons.
I think I'd understand it better if Britney would at least get out of the spotlight for awhile, worked on her problems, and then asked for her kids back. But to just give them up and keep doing the music and videos and stuff? It just seems like she's got her priorities wrong, and I for one have no problem with you likening her to a momma fish.
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