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Jeff, One Lonely Guy
By Jeff Ragsdale
Everyone has felt lonely at one time in their lives and Jeff Ragsdale is not alone. Ha. That’s funny. Because he is alone. Or else he would not be the author of the book I’m sharing with you on MaNiC right now, would I?
Jeff is actually One Lonely Guy, or he was at one time. I’m not sure if he’s still lonely but in October of 2011, he posted a flier in NYC that looked like this:
He received hundreds of phone calls, then the flier went viral via the internet and Facebook and he began to receive thousands of phone calls from people all over the world – he got calls from pimps looking to hook him up, and from lonely women, and from other sad people like him, others who just wanted to see how he was doing. He got calls from depressed 13 year old kids too. He answered as many phone calls as he could and returned hundreds of calls. He spent hours and hours on the phone, connecting with people.
That’s what he needed to do.
Jeff, One Lonely Guy is a book that shares many of the conversations, texts and voice mails that Jeff had with the people who called him. It’s an interesting story because interspersed with the glimpses of the people who contacted him, Jeff shares his own story - about the intense relationship that had ended between he and his girlfriend Kira, and about his lonely childhood where he felt he was not loved. He shares stories of very bad times in his life, and this book is a tragic tale.
But in Jeff, One Lonely Guy, we see a world where there is hope. Where there are kind people, looking for something more than there is – where people long to make a connection that may not exist any longer – the human connection that we can't get when we hide behind screens and are too busy to take the time to just stop and tell someone hello.
In fact, I just called Jeff.
Because I wanted to know if he was still lonely. I hope he calls me back. Except I think he’s not very lonely any longer. And that makes me happy.
(I thought this was going to be the end of my post....... BUT.....it continues .....)
Guess what? It's now about four hours later and as I was watching Glee, my phone rang. I sprang up, "It's JEFF!" Jeff, the lonely guy, actually CALLED me back! He and I talked on the phone for about twenty minutes. I felt like I was talking to someone with a lot of heart, and a person who really did care. Like if you called him out of the blue, he would LISTEN. Truly. He told me he never thought of himself as "being a listener" and he was a good listener. He said he never thought he'd be helping people, but he is. He said the saddest part of this whole journey is when 13-year-old boys and girls call him as if he is their last hope.
I asked Jeff what would he do if he woke up one morning and he never got any more phone calls. It's doubtful that'll happen. What he's hoping to do with his phone number is to turn it into a non-profit helpline, which I think is an amazing idea. I hope it works out for him.
Of course, I wanted to know if he's still lonely. While he's not in a relationship, he is "dating and meeting people." In fact he said he is probably going on a date this weekend with someone he's met through the flier. And for the future, he will be working on a memoir. He's such an interesting person, I'm sure a memoir will be a hit. I know I could have talked to him for a much longer time, and he was a kind and courteous guy - even asked me questions about my family! But I was sure he had MANY phone calls and texts to return so I told him I'd let him go!
Go like Jeff's Facebook.
Here's Jeff's awesome website where he updates it pretty much daily with calls he still gets. It's really cool.
The Oprah Blog even posted about Jeff and his book.
Check out this video to learn more about Jeff's journey!
What I love about this book is that Jeff wasn't putting up the flier so he could tell people HIS sad story. I think he did it so he could talk to others and try to make them feel better, even if he didn't initially know that would happen. It was all about making the connection. I know that when I'm feeling down, doing something for others and not wallowing in self-pity always makes me feel less sad.
If you’d like to win a copy of Jeff, One Lonely Guy, tell me about a time when you’ve felt lonely. For me, it’s always, ALWAYS when we first move to a new place – so when we moved to Philly, and even when we moved back to the Chicago area from Philly, because although we had friends there, it was a new time in our lives, and we were moving back there with kids. And then, of course, my loneliest was moving to AZ.
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