Monday, April 23, 2007

Virtually Impossible

Believe me when I say trying to write a sex scene during the hour it's time to get the kids to bed really, really SUCKS!

Cripes, can they come down the stairs like sixteen-hundred more times? Ajers came down, sad puppy eyes, and was like, "You promised you'd come in to tuck me in."

I had promised. I had also forgotten. He was mad.

Diva was mad too, because my "stupid little book" according to her, was more important than "your kids, and their teeth and their health. Don't you want your kids to be healthy, with clean teeth, or do you care more about a stupid little book?"

And then Ajers, with the, "it's just a dumb book," comment. It made me think. Am I missing out on golden opportunities with my kids just because I am trying to write another novel? Does this make me a bad mom? Does this negate the pizza, ice cream, putt-putt golf, walks and bikerides, trips to Target to get something fun we did all weekend long while hubby was golfing? Huh? Did any of that crap count for anything?

Noooooo. God forbid mommy wants to do something for herself and it's spilling out of her head and if she doesn't get it down onto the computer, it'll be lost forever, and believe me when I tell you, this was a hot, hot sex scene.

I tried to explain it to Ajers this way. (Wait! Not the sex scene, the part about me needing to write tonight)... I said, "You know how like you're in the middle of a video game and I yell to you to come upstairs and you yell back that you will when the game is over, and you're so focused on the rest of that game, that nothing else seems important at that moment?"

He said yeah.

I said, "That's what it's like for me when I have something I need to write and it's a priority, very important and I want to get it done right then. Like when you're playing a game."

"Well, what's more important? A dumb book or your kids?"

I shot it right back to him. "What's more important to you? Your PSP or mom?"

Fortunately, after some thinking, he did choose me, but when conversations with the kids come up like this, they really make me wonder if I'm being neglectful to them? Hell! I even planted seeds with Tukey today! We went to the store, bought actual seeds and are attempting to grow stuff in the yard. I have no idea if we'll be successful, but I can't tell you how many times he exclaimed sincerely, "This is such a fun project!"

I do so much for them, always let them have their friends in the house, in the yard, over for snacks, always suggest fun activities we can do. Spoil them to death if you ask anyone. And what do I get? They don't get enough of me? Come on. Am I being over-the-top here? Or are they just working the system, trying to get a little more time awake?

Cripes, I don't know. What I do know is that I am now no longer in the mood to write a sex scene, and I did get quite a workout going from the computer up the stairs, back down and back up while I tried to settle them...

Oh, and look, here comes another kid...

WHAT DO YOU WANT!?!?!?!?

: )

Peace UP.

PS... This is a total quickie rant and I'm just going to post it now without edits. Then I'm going to bed, where I will not be reenacting any of the sex scene I had been working on, much to hubby's dismay.

21 comments:

eatmisery said...

What can I say? Your kids dig you so much that they can't stand not being with you. You're the shit, MM!

OMG...my word verification is "dyckbum." Was that part of your sex scene? Heh...

Manic Mom said...

Love your word verification!

Swishy said...

They are TOTALLY working the system! Wonder where those smartie kids got it ...! :)

Monnik said...

I can totally relate to your post tonight, Manic. My kids do the same thing. You know you're not neglecting them, the list of things you did with them is amazing. From what I can tell, you're a great mom and a great writer, and you *can* be both, no guilt.

Piddler said...

We know from reading your blog that your kids are not neglected. The thing is, everyone knows who will give them more if they keep bugging.

Since the muse striking is such a rare and wonderful thing, here's what you do next time. Since they're not going to go to sleep anyway, say, hey, I can't tuck you in yet because I've been hit in the head with the perfect words. You guys go watch some TV (or another fave babysitter) til I'm done, then I'll tuck you in. Think about it, how often does the muse strike right at bedtime? Once or twice a year? It will be okay if they're up late.

Mom's are allowed to have lives. It's one of my core beliefs that our kids need to see us having lives so they will feel like they can have lives when they're parents. It's a gift we give them.

Christy_Ann said...

Sex? What's that?

Oh, I remember. It's what got me into all this trouble in the first place...

Colorado Writer said...

Cracking me up because I have the same thoughts and feelings when I am writing, and my family bugs me: I need juice, Can I have a popsicle, mom, wipe a butt, I need a snack, Chase made a mess, someone smacked someone, Hurry, there's 2 ants on the counter--kill one, the dog wants to go out, the dog is puking, it's time to go to preschool, can't you take me to the library?, when are you going to make dinner, can we have sex tonight, where is my Dr. Pepper sweatshirt?, I have to golf tonight, want to sit in the hotub? can we open our presents, can we dye our Easter eggs, won't you sew this button on today?, your mom called, again...

Manic Mom said...

I can't tell you all how nice it is to be UNDERSTOOD!!!

monnik--thanks for telling me I can be both!

piddler--next time I'm telling them I have a date with the muse! oh, and let me explain, hubby is home during all of this too!!! He has already done the tuck-in and tooth-brushing, but they want MEEEEE!

Christy Ann--LOL!

Colorado Steph--Your husband ASKS if you can have sex!!! LOLOLOL

Monnik said...

colorado writer, your comment cracked me up. That is so exactly what happens in my life too!

Leslie said...

You are a great mom! That's just how kids work. Their world revolves around them. I remember hearing somewhere that if your kids take you for granted that means you are doing your job as a parent. They can take it for granted that you will always be there for them b/c you always have been and you have never let them down. At least that's what I tell myself when my kids are doing it!

Eileen said...

I think every working mom has this issue- the bonus is you can do your work from hom. Hang tight.

Drew Blackstone said...

Time for Drew to be philosophical.

Any time you choose to do one thing, you choose to not do something else.

Your kids are important, but so is your writing. At some point, they will learn that the universe does not revolve around them. Any one who knows you knows that you don't neglect them. (I wish I was treated like you treat your kids more often.)

To make a long story boring...It's OK for you to have some "Me time".

We all know that when the words come, you have to write them down.

Write on!!!!

Wow, that was a ramble.

Manic Mom said...

Drew, but a very much appreciated ramble!

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Travis Erwin said...

Got quit a chuckle to this blog and I can relate since I have two small ones of my own. But what you didn't point out was how much our novels become our children. I posted a blog, title Paying for your Raisin', about this very thing a few days back.

And no your not a bad paretns jsut because you get consumed by a scene.

Colorado Writer said...

This is TMI, but my hubby reminds me often that we've only done it 3 times this year!

Manic Mom said...

Colorado--tell your hubby that's two-thirds more than Manic Mom's hubby! LOL!

Frannie Farmer said...

Can sooo relate!
Kids are great with guilt.
Even AngelBaby can make me feel guilty for trying to shower alone. But maamaa, I miss you too, too much! I kid you not. The girl can take me down ... but seriously - sometimes you just have to take the time. I know they will appreciate you for it later!

The Dummy said...

They're just pushing your buttons, MM. Kids are manipulative like that! It's not like you've permanently incapacitated them or anything.

*Nicholas-Sean* said...

wow...I give you props for trying!
Damn, gotta say...I'm kinda scared to have kids now!
hahaha
Don't tell me the sex completely goes away??? lol...

Although this isn't as bad as when I was a child...actually walking in on my mom blowing my dad.
Gotta admit...my mind is still tainted with the image...
BARFFFFF LOL

Nicholas-Sean

kj said...

What gets me is when they do that and you're NOT trying to do something for yourself...there they are, begging you to come now, hanging on your legs, wailing about your neglect and you're jsut trying to fold the friggin laundry. THEIR laundry.

At least you were trying!