While we were at the dentist today, and Diva was getting sealants on her molars, I hear Ajers telling something to Tukey.
"Poop... toilet... toothbrush...sister and her friend..."
I get Ajers to tell me what happened. Apparently, Diva and her friend thought it would be fun to wipe Tukey's toothbrush over some poop that friend had deposited into the toilet and then put the toothbrush back in its place.
I am freaking out appalled over this and don't know what to do, what reaction to have, what repurcussions to instill as a punishment. I seriously am shocked that they would do something this stupid, this cruel, this mean to her little brother. She's not a mean kid. And that is the meanest thing I've ever heard a kid doing deliberately to a sibling.
As soon as Ajers told Tukey what had been done to his toothbrush, he got upset. I immediately told Ajers to quit making stuff up and he insisted his sister told him that's what they did.
I didn't believe it. How could they? I told the boys to quit discussing it and that I would find out when Diva got out of the dentist.
She came out, I told the boys to wait and I took her aside.
"What happened with Tukey's toothbrush?"
The look on her face, well, it was completely obvious that she knew she had done something terribly wrong, and she knew she had to tell me the truth because I have always told them "The truth will set you free."
They really did it.
I can't believe it. I am so disgusted right now; I feel like crying; I feel literally sick to my stomach.
She cried, "I wish I could start my whole life over!" And is all apologetic, asking if she can call her friend over so they can discuss it. I'm torn. Do I call the mom? I love the kid; she is like a second daughter to us. We adore her. Do I just talk to her myself, and not tell the parents, cuz I love her parents too. I know she will be feeling remorseful. They should both be feeling terrible for this. How to punish Diva? Make her brush her teeth with a dirty toothbrush? Pull a Mommy Dearest on her? Ground her? Tell her father, which I will, but I think she is terrified of him. She said, "Don't tell Daddy, he'll kill me."
She completely knows it was wrong. I just need to know how to handle it. Because I have to handle this, don't I? I can't let her get away with it. This is unacceptable, and I am mortified.
UPDATE: So, Hubby gets home, I make Diva come upstairs with us and we explain what happened, decide on a punishment to fit the crime, and no, we are not making her brush her teeth with poo, and then she goes into her room to cry. Hubby and I sit quietly, discussing how we're both pretty much mortified that our darling kind sweet and loving daughter would pull such crap (pun intended!) and then he goes into the bathroom.
A couple minutes later, he comes out, and he's brushing his teeth and all I can think of is that from now on, every time we brush our teeth we will remember that our daughter put poo on our son's toothbrush, deliberately and cruelly.
Hubby, still brushing his teeth, looks at me thoughtfully, and in the only words that would completely absolve our daughter, he confesses:
"I did that in college once."